As an overseas Pinoy, you probably wish that you’re more hands-on in upbringing your child. But there are many ways to ensure that you maintain a strong presence in your child’s life. Here are some of them:

1.     Keep in touch with your child. Set a regular schedule for phone calls, emails, or video-chats. As much as possible, don’t miss out on these scheduled “bonding” times. Remember that routine spells comfort and dependability for children.

2.     Maximize the Internet. In the virtual world, you may help your child with his schoolwork. You may also send him e-cards, e-books and fun personality quizzes. You may even play online games together. Try finding common interests (such as a book, TV show, musician or sports team) and discuss them online.

3.     Children love surprises. So if you can, send your child a pasalubong box filled with little toys, a musical instrument, a book or even stationery. You may also send in cassettes with you narrating his favorite bedtime stories, or just talking about your fun times together. Send lots of pictures of you.

4.     Keep communication lines open between you and your child’s guardian. If your spouse is back home caring for your kids, it’s important that you agree with him about parenting policies (allowance, curfew, etc.) to avoid confusing your child. He can help bring you closer to your child by frequently mentioning you in conversations. He can also see to it that the child is ready and available to receive your call or chat with you. Most of all, he can help explain your absence to your child.

Long distance parenting can be difficult. But just like any other parent, you can make it work with enough time, sincerity and effort. After all, love is love—no matter the distance.